tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post3551426808276938076..comments2023-07-01T15:57:48.958+05:30Comments on Life rules: Can widowed women wear gajra?Gauri Gharpurehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-53323865838930300892010-12-17T10:20:57.471+05:302010-12-17T10:20:57.471+05:30bang on abt the evolution of culture, you have exp...bang on abt the evolution of culture, you have explained it quite well! yes, things were so different.. my great- great-grandmother was widowed in her early teens but fortunately her father and brothers took good care of her. Aaji talks a lot abt her, and maybe i should write it down sometime..<br /><br />btw, such searches on eye donation are very regular, i am glad someone wants to read up and is landing here!!Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-5518500228310310462010-12-16T07:21:17.016+05:302010-12-16T07:21:17.016+05:30my question would have been: what's with poems...my question would have been: what's with poems on eye donation?<br /><br />but seriously. i think of religion/culture as evolving with time. while some people/families evolve faster, some do so slower, or do not need to do so. my favourite example is how it was ok for my great grandfather to go head-hunting, but not ok for me. (i am not saying that this evolution is necessarily for 'good', just that we evolve). maybe years down we will look back at our behaviour today with this much horror!barukhttp://feddabonn.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-37481289782491109052010-10-19T16:07:40.883+05:302010-10-19T16:07:40.883+05:30Yes Gauri ... very well said .
All those people wh...Yes Gauri ... very well said .<br />All those people who ride against the tide and come out a winner are exemplary for the courage they show. Especially because this courage has to work against their own people , their own surroundings ...<br /><br /> I have been wanting to write about a few courageous people i know but that will involve writing about all the nasty people too who cause pain and discrimination in such a scenario ..i have yet to find the right way to write a complete truth ...sangeetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01091803798460651759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-15130901404310602352010-10-17T22:41:20.613+05:302010-10-17T22:41:20.613+05:30Dear sangeeta
i understand what you are trying t...Dear <a href="#c2800868154759361020" rel="nofollow">sangeeta</a> <br /><br />i understand what you are trying to say.. and such manipulation is still very vogue..<br /><br />however, one regret i have when i write such posts is that they somehow overshadow the relatively few (but significant) instances of people who go against the tide.. am sure there would examples of some families who went ahead and got widows of their families educated or remarried.. maybe, we should also try and document such cases.. guess i will take this as my homework:)<br /><br />also, I read your Homealone for the first time.. very touched..Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-28008681547593610202010-10-17T15:41:43.169+05:302010-10-17T15:41:43.169+05:30Hi Gauri... while your dussera post looks deliciou...Hi Gauri... while your dussera post looks delicious i choose to read this one and comment here...<br /><br />Gajra is just a symbolic instrument , we see even now when a widow is ostracized in a different manner . You wrote it so meaningfully...One less mouth to feed, one more woman to manipulate ...yes it comes down to this harsh truth.<br /><br />I know a family who seemed to ne generous when i came to know that they have their widowed sister n her daughter living with them . After a few months when i realized what is going on........both the mother daughter were treated like maids and they had to pay for the shelter n food being provided by doing household chores...isn't it manipulation?<br /><br />Looking beautiful and wearing gajra is not the question actually ...isn't our religion ( or religious practices for that matter ) responsible for manipulating the lesser privileged ?? <br /><br />Having said that , i feel really sad and startled sometimes when i see weird search keywords on my blog 'homealone'....sangeetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01091803798460651759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-23191809481411770622010-10-17T13:39:42.500+05:302010-10-17T13:39:42.500+05:30@sm
not religion, but rather the misinterpretatio...@<a href="#c9198780623345589806" rel="nofollow">sm</a><br /><br />not religion, but rather the misinterpretation of it.. <br /><br />Thanks Sm for dropping by after a long time.. hope you have been good..Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-91987806233455898062010-10-17T00:49:26.781+05:302010-10-17T00:49:26.781+05:30very well written
if u think carefully one will un...very well written<br />if u think carefully one will understand religion has killed more than any criminalsmhttp://realityviews.blogspot.com/2010/10/cwg-over-committee-formed-to-probe.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-29431774438114727032010-10-13T12:15:33.646+05:302010-10-13T12:15:33.646+05:30@Ash Thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a com...@<a href="#c3528540329091535554" rel="nofollow">Ash</a> Thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a comment.. <br /><br />@<a href="#c3110092511997597034" rel="nofollow">Sara</a>agree with what you have said.. you have put the essence of this long post so beautifully.. <br /><br />water served to reveal the seriousness of the issue many times more pressingly compared to what i had heard or read before..Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-31100925119975970342010-10-13T06:20:13.444+05:302010-10-13T06:20:13.444+05:30I watched Water a long time back..a very touching ...I watched Water a long time back..a very touching movie.<br />And its sad how demise of the husband suddenly makes others the masters of a woman's life,still,in today's world!<br />What she can wear and eat has to follow a rule book?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11740382469223651320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-88898978295901004702010-10-10T21:21:27.573+05:302010-10-10T21:21:27.573+05:30Dear Digant, I am so happy to see you voice your o...Dear <a href="#c8783637724604639268" rel="nofollow">Digant</a>, I am so happy to see you voice your opinions here.. really..<br /><br />yes, it's sad how we sometimes leave out widows out of such trivial joys, like gajra or mehendi, so that even if they want to break the tradition, they have little encouragement to do so.. this often came to my notice too.. but then we were small and our curiosities and questions easily snubbed and silenced.. now, we must not leave any chance to voice our opinions in such matters politely but firmly.. <br /><br />and i never thought the person seeking the answer might be a teenager.. tht's a sensitive way of looking at the issue and you opened my eyes towards being more open, less judgemental..thanks! <br /><br />again, so happy to see you here, do keep reading and commenting..Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-87836377246046392682010-10-10T17:50:00.990+05:302010-10-10T17:50:00.990+05:30Who might have asked...
He might be a teenager lik...Who might have asked...<br />He might be a teenager like me who might have asked after seeing this incident somewhere...<br />or might be for his widowed mother...<br />Net can be best place..Anonymous ...saved from the autrocious soceitydiganthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07476924860387479122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-42247978651776717062010-10-10T17:44:43.858+05:302010-10-10T17:44:43.858+05:30Hi ....
Nicely written...:)
I have also observe...Hi ....<br /> Nicely written...:)<br />I have also observed...During many auspicious occasions...widows are not allowed to wear gajras..( i have actually seen Avoiding widow lady in the house and asking everyone else for gajra)..<br />And i didnt knew about the As in why the sati?? and stuff<br />and thank you for lokmanya tilak's explicit descriptiondiganthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07476924860387479122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-63310836901245028332010-10-09T21:39:50.160+05:302010-10-09T21:39:50.160+05:30@Indrani Thanks.. :)@<a href="#c6466745632298638873" rel="nofollow">Indrani</a> Thanks.. :)Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-64667456322986388732010-10-08T14:17:34.678+05:302010-10-08T14:17:34.678+05:30A very well written post. Excellently replied. Str...A very well written post. Excellently replied. Strange answers people search... really!!!Indranihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13097788106899971708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-13633006439699562382010-10-06T11:39:31.715+05:302010-10-06T11:39:31.715+05:30@manjujoglekar and @Kamini
i was intrigued and a ...@<a href="#c3768731797518780838" rel="nofollow">manjujoglekar</a> and @<a href="#c1671638651300867338" rel="nofollow">Kamini</a><br /><br />i was intrigued and a tad unsettled to see a person who can read english, has net and can use it sufficiently well is troubled enough to actively search for an answer.. that is what really egged me to write this huge post..<br /><br />and Kamini, like you, i too hope that if he (she) surfs again and lands on this post, he at least gets something to ponder on even if he may not readily agree with that I have written..<br /><br />In issues like these, a concrete conclusion is not the end, but the debate and discussion that opens new channels of thought is..<br /><br />for example, me and my parents disagree on several such points, but our dialogue makes each party a little less stubborn by the time we have had our tea.. :)Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-43829967487395011002010-10-06T11:23:01.314+05:302010-10-06T11:23:01.314+05:30@homecooked that he is.. :) yes, even i have seen ...@<a href="#c9068023734710710673" rel="nofollow">homecooked</a> that he is.. :) yes, even i have seen few myself.. <br /><br />but then again, looking for others who do so, is in a way seeking a justification, isn't it.. to use my favourite sociological term, something like promoting a spiral of silence.. many may secretly want to break traditions, but stay quiet in absence of external proofs of support..Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-16716386513008673382010-10-06T02:52:17.100+05:302010-10-06T02:52:17.100+05:30What a wonderful post! I am sure the original seek...What a wonderful post! I am sure the original seeker for the answer is more than happy.<br />It was appalling, the way widows were treated not so long ago in our country.Kaminihttp://kaminidandapani.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-37687317975187808382010-10-05T18:13:21.240+05:302010-10-05T18:13:21.240+05:30It is incredibly sad that this unknown woman feels...It is incredibly sad that this unknown woman feels obliged to ask this question- which should be one of mere personal preference!<br /><br />As you have asked- why does she seek external justification?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2684182101139540397.post-90680237347107106732010-10-05T14:54:15.335+05:302010-10-05T14:54:15.335+05:30Your dad is very wise man! Sadly I dont know any w...Your dad is very wise man! Sadly I dont know any widows who wear gajra's.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com